Weddings are some of the most exciting times that can occur in someone’s life–and it can also be the most stressful. There are literally hundreds of decisions to be made, hundreds of people to talk to, and thousands of anxieties that may cross your mind. If that sentence made you break out in a cold sweat, then you may be in the midst of preparing for a wedding. But never fear! The wedding planning process doesn’t have to be stressful–in fact, it can be fun, and, dare we say it, even enjoyable. Don’t let the drama of shows like Say Yes To The Dress fool you: you, yes you, can calm your nerves and have a pain free wedding experience. Want to know how? Keep reading to see our best tips to keep your chill during wedding preparations.
Tip One: Write Things Down
There are one million little details when it comes to planning a wedding–thinking about the sheer volume alone can be enough to send you spiraling. From the first choices like choosing your maid of honor and guest list to things a little farther down the line like your wedding gown, photographer, and other specific vendors, there’s a ton of potential for stress and anxiety in the planning process. Whether you keep a physical notebook close by or you keep track of lists on your phone, make a to-do list with all of the things that come to mind, so that you can circle back around to specific details when the time is right.
Tip Two: Recruit Help
You know the old saying–no man is an island. Humans aren’t supposed to function alone; in fact, we need the help and community of others in our lives. So, when you’re planning your wedding, it doesn’t just have to be you and your partner trying to tackle it all. Recruit friends, parents, and other significant people in your life to help you divide and conquer. Really want to take a load off? Consider a wedding planner! Having a professional point of contact for your big day can totally ease your stress help you regain a good night’s sleep.
Tip Three: Know Your Limits
Help take care of your own mental and emotional health by knowing what your limits are. Are you prone to anxiety? Then set a few manageable goals for yourself each day so that you don’t get overwhelmed too quickly. Are you a perfectionist? Then set deadlines on your tasks to help you lock in decisions. If you don’t have a deadline, you can work on the same thing endlessly until its perfect–and that isn’t a practical or realistic goal for anything involved in wedding planning. Knowing your limits, and then having other people help you stick to your boundaries, will keep you from turning into bridezilla.
Tip Four: Prioritize: What is most important to you?
Know which decisions are the most important to you before you get too far into the wedding planning process. What can you compromise on? What don’t you want to compromise on? Maybe you feel really passionately about the color of the bridesmaid dresses, but you could care less whether the flowers are real or silk. Maybe you care a lot about the food your guests eat, but don’t care about the type of frosting on the cake–heck, maybe you don’t even want a cake! As you prioritize your decisions and goals, you may find that some decisions are easier to make than others, and some work that can be delegated to other people, so you can focus on what is most important to you and your partner.
Tip Five: Take Care of Yourself
Give yourself enough time to get through this process and give yourself grace. There are huge life changes coming your way, and that alone is enough to drive you crazy–not to mention the massive party you have to plan in the meantime. Listen to yourself, listen to your body, and respond accordingly. Whether that means getting enough sleep (6-8 hours, people), or eating all three meals a day (breakfast is really important after all), or taking time to meditate or do a bit of yoga each day, these small changes can make a huge difference in how you handle the pressure and stress of this season of life.
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Tip Six: Set and Celebrate Milestones
Planning a wedding is a big task, and should ultimately be a big celebration. But you don’t have to wait until the wedding to start celebrating! Setting milestones for wedding planning will help you get things done on time so everything isn’t put off until the last minute. But it also gives you a great excuse to celebrate along the way. Whether you and your significant other go on dates as you get closer to the wedding day and mark things off, or you celebrate with your girls the finding of your dress, wedding season can be one of the most joyful and enjoyable seasons of your life with the people that you love. This doesn’t have to be pricey, but it can be meaningful and special as you close out one season of life and enter into another one.
And there you have it! Those are our six best tips to keep your chill during wedding preparations! Hopefully, the more calm you are, the more fun you can have as you get ready to say your best yes yet. And better yet, we hope this helps give you perspective–a wedding can be the highlight of your relationship, but it doesn’t have to be. Hopefully, the process will help you and your partner grow closer together, and the wedding can be the start of the next chapter of your lives–and the best chapter, at that. Don’t be discouraged by the details and the drama; instead, focus on your relationship and what brought you together in the first place, and plan a wedding that celebrates the best parts of both of you. It will be a day that you won’t want to forget!
Mazel Tov, Congratulations, and happy wedding planning!